You built yourself a unique Box in which to Survive your childhood and adolescence. Guess what? It worked. Now what?
Independent Transformation
A conversation between Wizard #1 and Wizard #2
Wizard #1:
Please describe Self-Will to me...If Self-Will different from Ego? And if so, how?
Wizard #2:
Self-Will is the thing that actually decides what a person thinks, feels, does, and says or chooses not to do or say.
What is 'funny' about this is that self-will can change its Point Of Origin from one part of the Box to another.
What this means is that from one second to the next, a single person can say, feel, think, or do completely contradictory things.
We usually do not even notice this insanity.
Self-Observation builds a databank of neutral observations that you can use to notice the contradictions, and Self-Inquiry (or an Emotional Chairwork Process) can follow an impulse back to its source as an old decision, a splintered e-body part, an energetic block, an assumption, a resentment, etc, and give your Being a chance to heal (to kill off) the neurotic Point Of Origin Place (...POOP).In the Gurdjieff work, the intention was eventually to experience a 'single I' as in a single identity.
Although I never met any successful Gurdjieff practitioners except for perhaps Claudio Naranjo (who died happily last year so I cannot ask him what he thinks about himself...) I could imagine it works.
I use the word Ego for the entire Box structure, which includes all of these various identities.Wizard #1:
If the Gremlin defends the Box, what do you call the active part, that brings the Being into the world?
Wizard #2:
You mean the part that tells the Gremlin to Sit! and consciously chooses to make other gestures?Wizard #1:
Probably ... I guess, that part brings the Being qualities in the world, too.Wizard #2:
I currently regard the Being as the center of just about everything.
For example, it seems to me that the Being wears the 5 bodies like a body-glove.
I also think Matrix gets built in the Being with experiential distinctions that can catch and hold more consciousness in the Being so the Being gets bigger and the person can make more conscious choices.It is not the Energetic Body, which seems to me more like a subtle Physical Body.
Wizard #1:
If the being is like a seed, what makes it grow roots and a stem?The flower that will develop is the essence of the Being. What makes it grow?
Wizard #2:
Somehow I don't think the Being grows roots. I think it grows wings.I think the flowers that the Being produces are the gifts it creates to serve others.
I think that what the indigenous see as one's roots into a place are actually more like a field effect, like when Wizard #3 worked with you and the others to download from the field of the Australian Aboriginals. It seemed more like his Being was resonating specifically with their field.
I think that the essence of the Being is the field that it generates.
You don't have to Be what you aren't to get what you want...
Wizard #1:
What makes the Being grow wings?Does the Being have a Will? Or does the Being grow wings, when the Box isn’t in charge?
And, if I stretch out my hand to say "Hi!" according to Western culture as a pattern, is it my Box acting? Or is it my Gremlin?
Wizard #2:
I think the Gremlin is not always malicious or destructive.I think Gremlin is the active part of the Box, often doing simply habitual things to keep the Box the same as it is so we survive.
I think the Gremlin putting out its hand to say "Hi!" is nearly the same as tapping the forehead with your fingers to say "Hi!", in that Gremlin is attentive to managing things for survival.
I think the Being's Self-Will could take over from the Gremlin and choose to put out the hand or to tap the forehead with a different purpose. I notice that I almost never tap my forehead with my fingers or say "Harbigarrr!" unless a Possibility Manager is in front of me.
My Gremlin could do that, of course, but mostly his behavior would offend or shock people and make them think of me as weird so my weird Box could do its survival thing.
I think the Being is designed to grow wings as part of our initiation into adulthood.It seems like the Universe waits for human beings to grow up and come play in High Level Fun, which can also be flying in the groundlessness, for which one needs wings.
I think that building enough Matrix and participating in certain 'safely challenging' spaces induces the Being to grow wings.
Wizard #1:
I would like to talk about this, rather than typing.My intention is to get the distinction between Box, Gremlin and Being better, specifically in every day interactions.
My question is still, what makes the Being grow wings?
If the Being just is, it has no dynamic to grow anything. Does it have a Will?
Wizard #2:
I am in the middle of trying to write two memetic viruses that are frying my circuits.
I also enjoy exploring these considerations with you at the speed of Being rather than at the speed of Mind.I would like to ponder about these things in between writing to you, and to do little experiments in myself to find out stuff while we investigate this together.
Would you be willing to keep writing with me for a while?Wizard #1:
Okay...
Wizard #2:
I think the Being has both Will and Attention and the capacity for Presence.
I think it is the Being that Commits, Chooses, Declares, and generates impulses to Ask.
I think it is the Being that jacks into the Archetypal Lineage through all 5 Bodies.Wizard #1:
Yes. I agree.So, if I (Which 'I'?) consciously stretch out my hand to so say "Hi!" to connect with someone in their world - and I use mainstream technology (an ordinary handshake) to connect - is that my Being doing it?
Wizard #2:
I think your/my Being would assess the encounter situation and choose either mainstream or next culture greeting technology by conscious choice to create a specific outcome or to serve the purposes of a specific space.Wizard #1:
Yes, so the Being uses consciousness to assess the situation and then moves accordingly to its qualities, learnings and inner message.So, does the Box itself have an active part?
Or is the Gremlin 'always' the part that brings the Box's opinions, patterns etc. into the world?
Wizard #2:
I think my Gremlin is the king of my Being's Shadow World, and my Gremlin sits next to my Being (who is the presiding 'I' at the moment...) who is king of my Bright World.The Gremlin has the tools and needs of my Box's survival strategies.
My Being has the tools and needs of my Matrix's thriving capacities.
At the same time, I am both.
I am the whole Map of Possibility in action inside of me, centered, grounded, small NOW, small HERE, ongoingly creating.
Wizard #1:
Yes, and ... I get back to my main question:Does the Box itself have an active part? Or is the Gremlin 'always' the part that brings the Box's opinions, patterns etc. into the world?
That is a "Yes" or "No" question...
Wizard #2:
I think yes, the Gremlin is 'always' the active part of the Box that either consciously or unconsciously brings the Box's opinions, patterns, strategies into the world.If the creation is done consciously, then the Gremlin is your Being's ally and serves your Being's purposes, coming from Bright Principles, your Pearl, your Archetypal Lineage, etc. taking radical responsibility, creating High Drama.
If the creation is done unconsciously, then Gremlin is running loose keeping your Being in the Box's familiar survival patterns, avoiding responsibility, creating Low Drama.
One archetypal ecstasy of successful adulthood initiation is gaining your Gremlin as an ally.
Being
“Your life has an inner purpose and an outer purpose.
Inner purpose concerns Being and is primary.
Outer purpose concerns doing and it is secondary.
Your inner purpose is to awaken. It is as simple as that....
Finding and living in alignment with your inner purpose is the foundation for fulfilling your outer purpose.
It’s the basis for true success.”
— Excerpt from A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle
Intimacy: Box-to-Box or Being-to-Being
Your Box is Optional
Dead Machines? Not quite.
When a dead machine meets another dead machine, what do you think happens? Not much. Right.
Human beings are clever. You developed not only safe, tight, hyper-controlled dead machine to emprisonned yourself away from the intensity of intimacy, feedback, Creation and Love; you brought to life a part of yourself that would create a false sense of ecstasy: the Gremlin. You have a certain amount of energy flowing through you everyday.
Everybody has the same amount of energy. If your Being is not using this energy for Creation, Love, and Intimacy; your Box and Gremlin need to use up this energy through false ecstasy of fake intimacy. Box-to-Box, Gremlin-to-Gremlin intimacy can be quite exciting!
Have you ever tried to be right?
Have you ever tried to make someone else wrong?
Have you ever taken revenge? to accumulate resentment (even, especially! against your partner)?
Have you ever complained to your friends?
Have you ever been nice and adaptive to fit in?
Have you ever hated somebody? or blamed somebody? or shamed somebody?
Have you ever tried to control or manipulate?
Your Gremlin loves this, while your Being is starving, desperatly hungry to get some 'live' time in your Life. If you are not consciously making Being-to-Being Intimacy, your default mode applies: survival of the Box and Gremlin above all.
Your Box and your Gremlin have one job: to keep things the same. Being Intimacy is a catalyse for Evolution. Your Gremlin will destroy any space in an instant knocking your unconscious if he or she smells even one whiff of potential Being-to-Being Intimacy. Your Gremlin does not want Transformational Intimacy to threathen its promise to you.
Their Box asks: "How are you?". If they succeed in pushing the button on your Box, withing milliseconds you find yourself saying "I'm fine." "I'm good." Your Box is so fast. As fast as your phone! Your Box is a machine! It will do the job you have given it!
It could also look like this...
Their Box asks: "Is this ok?" Your Box says "Of course." or "Sure, I don't mind."
"I'm sorry", apologizing constantly.
Smiling when you are angry, afraid, sad or guilty, or ashamed or embarrased.
Not answering the question asked.
Making conclusions and stories about someone else or yourself: "Oh, so you like vanilla ice scream." "So, you always have lunch at midday." "Ok, you don't like japanese people."
Projecting on others: "He did not say 'hello' to me so he must be gossiping behind my back."
Your Gremlin is then in the driving seat of your Life. Your intimacies are limited to what already exists inside of your Box. You already know anything that can possibly happen.
One might ask: what else is there? What is there is Practice!
It only takes one!
It only takes one to practice making a paper thing Gap between you and your Box, for a Box-to-Box intimacy to die on the shore of your centeredness.
The more you can experientially distinguish between 'You', your Being and your Box, the more easily you can 'catch' your Box and Gremlin. First, you will notice AFTER the deal is done. 'Oh my gosh, 1 hour ago with my friend Sally, I was just smiling like a little girl while she was complaining, instead of saying "This conversation is over!"
With practice, you will start catching yourself while you are engage right in the middle of fake, superficial or super-intensity righteous battle of dead-mechanical intimacy with a love one. At this point, there is almost nothing you can do. The hormones have kicked in. Your Gremlin is in the game, and theirs too. Your way out is to be radically honest immediately: "I let my Box/Gremlin be hooked into a superficial intimacy conversation with you. I am leaving. I will be back in 20 minutes." There is not way out by trying to work it out with the other 'person'. You are both not Present enough to even start a Being-to-Being Intimacy.
After more practice,
Courage
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Experiments
What if it is true that you have a Box, but you are not your Box?
Wouldn't you want to know this?
What if new skills are required to navigate being your Being?
If you are being your Box instead of being your Being, how can you connect with another human Being?
There is a certain way to find out.
No one can find out for you.
More interestingly, no one can stop you from finding out.
Let the Experiments begin!
DISTINGUISH OFFER FOR INTIMACY FROM OTHER PEOPLE
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
Write down in your Beep! Book 20 offers of intimacy, from 20 people each day, for 7 days.
Classify the offers into offers from Gremlin, offers from the Box and offers from the Being. By the end you will have 140 offers, what percentage are from Gremlin, what percentage are from Box, what percentages are from Being.
Part 2
Do the same thing for yourself the next week. You are making 20 offers a day, write down every single offer you make, is it a box to box intimacy, is it a gremlin to gremlin intimacy, is it a being to being intimacy.
GIVE A WORKTALK WITH THE TITLE HOW TO BE A RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMIST
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
Where you explain how to connect being to being
CALL UP YOUR MOTHER AND ONLY SPEAK WITH HER BEING
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
Regardless of what she says. The call is 20mins long. I fyou are hooked at any point you need to buy her a box of chocolats, everytime.
MAKE YOUR BOX OPTIONAL AND CHOOSE YOUR BEING WHILE TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
If you don't have a partner it is because you don't know how to make your box optional. Go on a speed dating, not online.
DIAL UP SOMEBODY'S BOX AND HAVE A CONVERSATION
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
being able to navigate people's parts so that you are able to navigate the intimacy that you want.
What do you notice
DIAL UP SOMEBODY'S BEING AND HAVE A CONVERSATION
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
being able to navigate people's parts so that you are able to navigate the intimacy that you want.
What do you notice
NOTICE IF YOUR SPACEHOLDING INVOKES PEOPLE'S BOX, GREMLIN OR THEIR BEING
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
this is a special experiment for possibilitators and spaceholders
STUDY A DOGS BOX AND BEING
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
For an hour a day, 3 days in a row, stare into your dogs eyes and write a description of your dogs box and your dogs being and publish it as an article.
SAY WHAT YOU ARE INTERESTED TO TALK IN THE OTHER PERSON
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
I am interested to talk to what you are, I am not interested to talk to your opinions, or your fears, or your needs, I just want to here from what you are. And then listen for as long that they can speak even if it is for one hour.
DISTINGUIHS BETWEEN YOUR FIVE BODIES BOX NEEDS AND YOUR BEINGS FOOD
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
Your box is feeding your body where it is used to, but that is blocking your bodies to be in sync with your evolution, whereas your being can inform the noursihnment your five bodies really need from who you are right now.
MELT DOWN YOUR BOX LIKE AN ICE CUBE
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
go to a cafe with somebody you want to connect being to being, order large glass of ice and each of you takes a ice and holds it in the end. It starts to melt, and as it is melting that is all the time you have for your box, your box is melting away. say what you feel and think about your box melting away, until all you have is wet hands and then there is no box.
FILM YOUR BOX, FILM YOUR BEING
Matrix Code BOXANDBE.00
making a video of yourself when you are alone and try to capture at least one box version of yourself and one being version of yourself. Note to the experiment writer: come up with an experiment for people to make their being shine in front of the camera.
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